I have my beliefs. I think I know what I would do in certain circumstances, but am not 100% sure. No one is. My beliefs do not “Trump” your rights and beliefs. I feel superior to no one. I rarely make promises. Too many interfering variables. In my opinion, the chaos theory is alive and well and a factor no one can control. Pretending to love under the terms of psychological hate is the rudimentary basis of a repressive soul. I don’t know everything. I feel around and hope I… get it right. If right ends in whole happiness, I came close. If right ends in the destruction of my initial goal, then I failed to understand and I try again, differently. Forgiveness is key to escape misery. What people say and do represents who they are and has nothing to do with you. We are our own entities fighting for stability, peace and happiness. No ones end game is the same. The belief that what is right for me is right for you is immature and disastrous. To have a solid grasp on your beliefs’, you must take the journey to find yourself. It’s a difficult and bloody road to traverse, but at the end you will be confident, understanding and compassionate to those fearful and refusing to take that first step. I fight. I’m a warrior soul. It’s what I know. It’s who I am. To fight a battle properly, I seek information from both sides of the front line and instead of taking sides, I listen for the truth to speak to me out of the thunder of war. War has three truths. The opposing perceptions and what is truly the cause. That third truth is why the war started. To get both sides to listen, there needs to be a cease-fire, a silence. Sometimes you have to be that silence, that reprieve that cleansing breath. You have to be on the highest mountain looking over the fires and explosions, where breathing is hard and thinking even harder, to really see. To really feel. To Really know what is happening. Otherwise you’re just another screamer, accuser hater, and simply part of the problem. We all have the skills to help. To understand. To be compassionate. It’s a choice.
Posts Tagged ‘mind’
Perfect Thoughts From a Fallible Mind
Posted: January 8, 2017 in UncategorizedTags: body, life, mind, personal, religion, self, thoughts, truth
Resolution? No.
Posted: December 31, 2016 in life lessonsTags: family, health, humanity, learning, life, mind, personal, progress, relationships, religion, self, truth
I vow to be me and continue being grumpy, but only until that first sip of coffee. To be annoyed by slow drivers. To fidget nervously in crowds. To appreciate the unique dynamic of my family. To watch and learn about people so I can be more understanding. Walk in other people’s shoes to gain new perspectives. To only allow me to edit my life. To live like I am the star of my award winning movie. Make decisions by what I know plus what I feel. To promote positive energy my way and not the way others want me to. I vow to continue being happy and confident just by being me. Thank you.
Less is more
Posted: December 16, 2016 in UncategorizedTags: body, challenges, life, mind, personal, self, spirituality, truth
I live in the past, present, and the future. I learn from what has been, bring it into the now and reference it to pave the way ahead. We all have demons to slay. Some are long dead ghosts. Others are flesh and blood reminders of guilt. In pursuit of personal peace, my choice of weapon is words. Anger killed me slowly. Fear kept me hidden. Guilt moved me backwards. Blame shut me down. What was left, cried.
Cancer spoiled my pity party
Focus fight or die. I’m alive.
I DARE YOU To Show Me The Real You!
Posted: November 11, 2016 in UncategorizedTags: body, children, Dare, mind, personal, progress, Reality, relationships, religion, self, thoughts, truth
Now is the time to forget standard political policy. To forget religious dogma. To forget that people are different.
They don’t benefit us— real people who want more than All three have provided. We need to stop being afraid of who we are. Stop hiding behind beliefs, you’ve been spoon fed since birth, that turn one against the other. Parents against children. Race against race. Neighbor against neighbor. Stop depending on government and divisive religious tones to help you. Their extortion rhetoric and requirements are turning our societies into hateful distance mobs. We have lost the ability to think for ourselves. To be individuals. Our higher most tolerant and accepting senses are quivering beneath a blanket of hate.
Religion, political policy and race are creations erected by man to herd people into different groups to control us. This needs to stop. Walls need to crumble. Lines need to be erased. We are all here on borrowed time. We all eventually die. What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind? Quick story: My mom showed this strong woman in front of outsiders. I say outsiders because, like most of us, she had a different perspective inside her personal life. She was well liked and respected by many for good reason. At her wake, I realized just how many people cared about her. The room wasn’t big enough. People had to take turns inside to pay their respects. It wasn’t until I faced the prospect of death that I became more aware of who I’d become because of outside influences. And questioned if that person was the real me.
And thus, my journey to me began.
I was once a devoted catholic. I hated Sinead O’Conner for ripping a picture of the pope on national television. That’s how bad I was. Looking back…I have no idea why it bothered me so much. Could be my Swiss cheese memory, but I don’t think so. I hated her because Catholics hated her. I wasn’t acquainted with the First Amendment or higher thought, yet. The murmur of hatred buzzed around the religious world tainting all of us followers. If you hear something repeated, it becomes truth without logical or rational thought. Critical thinking gets chipped away and brainwashing takes over. That’s a fact.
I am challenging everyone who reads this to pass on the sentiment in their own words. This is a movement to get rid of intolerance and hatred propagated by the self-proclaimed elitists and entitled who only care about themselves. If they cared about anyone else, they wouldn’t incite hate and violence. They would remember that children get hurt. That their words destroy families. And cause innocent people to die.
Spread the word. Your word. Your love. Your tolerance. Your acceptance. Show the world we all have stories to tell. Share that part of you you’re afraid to divulge to the world for fear you will be rejected. I won’t reject you. Fear dies when people become intimate, acquainted. People don’t always do bad things because they are bad people. Most of the time they do bad things in the name of their perceived good.
Thank you for reading,
Genuinely Yours,
Mel Evers
An Unexpected Path
Posted: November 9, 2016 in UncategorizedTags: anger, anxiety, challenges, family, humanity, learning, mind, peace, personal, progress, relationships, truth
It’s early morning and I haven’t slept. I’m pondering the outcome of “our” election. The sun came up as usual and my daughter’s cat is being annoying—as usual, so nothing, at this point has changed. I’ve been reading Facebook posts. The reactions are weighed down on opposite sides of the spectrum.
In my opinion, others have voted in a hypocrite, which is the worst kind of liar, but there is nothing I can do about him.
That being said…
My world is my own. I will remain true to who I am. I will oppose all those who try to take away my rights. I will step up and solidify my community’s security by keeping an eye out for anyone being a bigoted, homophobic, misogynistic, xenophobic, racist bullies and put my life and integrity in the line of fire to keep this “leader’s influence from touching my neighbors, family and friends. I have and will always help a stranger either by donating food and or money. People who suffer and are afraid, have me on their side. People who are targeted because of their religion or skin color are, always in my eyes, my brothers and sisters related by our bond as human beings collectively.
I want to rant and vent. I want to scream and punch my punching bag until it’s nothing but a dangling piece of fabric.
What good would that do?
The sooner I move on spiritually, the better off I will be.
I’ve always believed, that no matter how bad something is, there is an inexplicable reason for it. And, some of the time, we won’t know why until after we’ve moved on from life on earth to review our challenges and lessons. So, God bless us all. (My God. Not yours.) I really hope people were right about him. Time will tell.
I’m Scared!
Posted: October 30, 2016 in UncategorizedTags: baffled, Election, learning, Lies, life, mind, perception, personal, progress, relationships, Trump, truth
Trump has brought out the worst in people. It is depressing to find out the depthless hate that encompasses a mind I thought was peaceful and progressive. I don’t wish violence on anyone. This was not always true. After a long grueling journey to self-awareness and acknowledging my responsibility in personal consequences, I am not one to judge. Many experiences mold a person’s perception of the world. I have done a lot to silence the hate from my past so as not to allow it into my future. It’s not easy. What was easy was to make a knee jerk reaction to my demon’s teeth latching onto my emotions to drive me away from my true self; the self that is untouched by other people’s beliefs. I took a step back to see, hear and learn while keeping the distance of peace and love in my heart. I see posts that crush my hopes and dreams. One man’s selfish desires are destroying our great nation. If he were judged as a woman, people would have called him a slut, a whore and a tease. Not rallied behind him to support his demeaning of women, using and then discarding people, taking advantage of our great nation’s loopholes instead of pointing them out, overlooking trials of criminal deception involving and rape and fraud and soon he will be calling for a revolution not caring how many people will be hurt and destroyed while he sits safely on his golden throne smiling about the chaos he created. Supporters have already mentioned a revolution if he doesn’t win. He calls the voting rigged and yet only Trump supports have been caught trying to vote more than once and are being arrested by not following voting laws. These laws have always existed and I know this because I once took a brochure from someone outside of a school where I was going to vote and was immediately told to throw it out when I entered. These are facts. I know this won’t change how people feel. The anger some feel at the system is too great. The hate of people too great. Maybe I should start posting riots and against Gays. Gay bashing etc. The labeling of gay people as pedophiles. Or the great uproar over priests molesting children and instead of being charged, were moved by the Vatican to molest children elsewhere. Do you think that has stopped? Or the KKK riots, Skin head riots, black church shootings. Our history is full of people thinking they’re better than others. White people lynching black people like they were less human than their murderers.
Our nation’s big bang start occurred after the destruction and theft of Indians and their land. And our founding fathers created a list of laws favoring only wealthy men and adding the lie of freedom of religion.
My last point is…I read posts that have been fabricated to stir blind anger. Photoshop pictures with false headlines and stories that people repost. It’s scary what people want to believe. And yet we have someone who wants to lead us down that road already traveled and littered with the remnants of human rights and dignities. I want to continue forward.
Voter Beware
Posted: October 25, 2016 in UncategorizedTags: challenges, learning, mind, progress, religion, spirituality
When you label something or someone people stop thinking. They assume the contrived label is correct and ignore the small print. When “The Religious” sect labeled people “Bad” they were declaring themselves “Good.” It’s manipulation 101. Religion labeled Gay as bad declaring heterosexuals good. No questions asked. No reasons why. Religion labeled women as second class citizens declaring the opposite gender first class.
The art of mass control by religion has been handed down generation by generation, altering their wording as not to allow their control to slip. Modern times and the addition of half the intellectual and empathetic population (women) make it hard for the religious sect to sink their heels into people’s ignorance.
Think about it.
Just One Person’s Opinions
Posted: October 12, 2016 in UncategorizedTags: learning, life, mind, peace, personal, self, thoughts
What I want in a leader of our country.
1-To keep religious beliefs out of their policies.
We are a nation of eclectic thoughts and beliefs. When a party chooses their beliefs, they discount everyone else’s. They say our country was born under freedom of religion, but that was not true. Despite what religion you were, you were forced or nagged into going to church because that’s what the leaders dictated. All religions try, whether subtle or demanding to recruit as many people as they can. And isn’t it funny that most religions describe women as second class citizens? If given the status we deserved from the beginning, men wouldn’t use terms such as needing championing to describe who we are as human. We don’t need to be coddled we are pretty damn strong. Religions should focus on bringing people together. Protect the children, the weak, the sick, the poor, not focus on stripping half the population of their rights.
Marriage Rights fall under this as well. Attraction is part of nature. Who we are attracted to falls under the realm of the unknown and uncontrollable. Oh and how some people hate that. We have laws that mostly protect children, (I would love for those polygamists who rape children claiming religion as their guide, to be jailed for the rest of their lives. Funny how those children aren’t protected or even come up on any politician’s radar.)
Pence is a perfect example of power undermining religious beliefs. A religious man (whether I respect their views or not) would not continue to back a serial sexual predator.) I do wonder if they made a deal with him about instantly impeaching Trump so Pence becomes president if votes go Trump’s way.
The only object truly separating us from each other is the concept of organized religion. Rules made a long time ago, written down and labeled divine. I do believe in GOD. I don’t believe separation is divine, it is the concoction of early men’s fears.
Abortion…
It’s a woman’s right to her body. Not the dude who knocked her up accidentally. Not the government. Not God’s. Not those people who stand in front of planned parenthood clinics holding signs and who subsequently vanish when it comes time to answer for the baby’s welfare, potential living conditions or if the child will die from abuse or malnutrition. So Back Off.
2- Our economy.
The rich should not be getting richer and the poor should not be getting destitute. The trickle down policy, which has been the policy for many presidents, does not work. http://www.faireconomy.org/trickle_down_economics_four_reasons
Maybe at one time it did, but when those who worked hard become successful grew older and eventually handed their empire over to their heirs, the hard work part deflated and the heirs’ head’s inflated. When you don’t know what it’s like to put your blood and sweat into a job, you expect everything to be handed to you. Not everyone is like this, but we are entering an age of the spoiled. They talk about children today being lazy. (Adding my experience to my opinion equals that showing respect, teaching hard work and responsibilities are the parents’ job.)
3- USA defense
Instill policies that bring our nation together. Don’t give the delusional any reason to act out on their abnormal urges. I’m a mother of three, awesome hardworking children. Yes, I get angry when I go into protective mode. Violence shakes my body and plies my imagination with graphic ways to eliminate the threatening problem. But, I don’t act on them or even show aggression. It’s called control. Most of us have it. Those who act on an initial impulse are mentally unstable. We all must take responsibility for our country despite who is running it. We have the power to protect our own. And the cognitive skills to make wise decisions.
Communication is key.
There are more…but at this point you can fill in the blanks.
Healthy is more than a state of mind and fit body…
Posted: August 18, 2013 in life lessonsTags: body, health, mind
We all seek out that perfect emotional, biological and spiritual balance. Some try to build a bubble that prevents pain and conflict from affecting them. Others use man made elixirs to escape into a fog of nothing. What kind of life is that? To be healthy we must forgo that journey to the bubble and face every challenge head on. Act on our instincts and do what we have to do to grow. What we truly desire is that moment when a challenge is nothing more than a way to learn a lesson or treat defeat as just another challenge. Most of us go through life taking everything personally. Why? Because whatever has been said or done to you triggers something you lived through, faced or are trying to avoid. The secret to dealing with such trepidation is to realize, everyone is experiencing the same struggle. We all have tempestuous demons to tame.
Mel Evers wonders about it all 